With no plan or support and lots of uncertainty around me, I found myself feeling disconnected, exhausted, and withdrawn. My boundaries were weak and I became my own worst critic. The judgment I put on myself caused me pain; thinking I was “not good enough” and failing in every parenting moment. I thought of all the parents out there who would see themselves the way I saw myself and I didn’t want that for them. For me, all it took was one deliberate and conscious choice and little did I know, it would lead me to such an empowering place with a new positive mindset and gaining back control.

Through trial and error, I learned that the only way I could truly be a “good enough” parent was to admit that I was temporarily out of service, emotionally injured and unavailable. It seemed so out of reach back then, but through my own journey of focusing on myself amongst other learnings, I realized that I was connecting more deeply with my son; he was healing faster and so was I. As scary as it was at the time, I realized that I had to search inwardly and shift my mindset to focus on the things I could control before I could even attempt to parent well. I had to admit to myself that I had to personally do the work and change, not my son or the external things surrounding me. It was truly a journey. With my educational background specialising in child therapy and counselling, and my determination to support my son through a disruptive time, I developed a unique process called PALMS, which is found in my famous “Parenting Through A Sh*t Time” program.

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